For men who shut down, overthink, feel overwhelmed but don’t know why.
I help men understand themselves and communicate clearly so they can stay present in tough moments, actually say what’s going on inside, and build stronger relationships.
Serving Los Angeles in-person and California online
You might be here because you’ve asked yourself:
“Why do I shut down during conflict?”
“Why do I overthink everything?”
“Why do I get irritated so easily?”
“Why can’t I communicate with my partner?”
“Why do I feel so overwhelmed all the time?”
If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken. You just never got the tools. That’s the work we do together.
How I Help Men
Most men were taught to stay calm, not to understand themselves.
We’ll change that with clarity, structure, and tools you can actually use.
Clarity:
Most men don’t lack intelligence. They lack emotional accuracy.
You grew up learning how to work hard, perform, be dependable, and stay calm...
but nobody taught you the signals your body sends, what those emotions mean, or how to catch things before they spiral.
Clarity means equipping you the emotional dictionary you never had.
With clarity, you can:
Understand what you’re feeling while you’re feeling it
Recognize patterns instead of getting blindsided
Stop misinterpreting your partner and your partner misinterpreting you
Know exactly what’s happening inside during conflict
Make better decisions because you’re not operating blind
Clarity is the thing that turns “I don’t know what’s wrong with me” into “Oh — I know exactly what’s happening and what to do next.”
It’s the foundation of every transformation you want.
Grounding:
Clarity doesn’t matter if your body is overwhelmed.
When stress hits, your nervous system hijacks everything. That’s why you shut down, freeze, snap, get defensive, or go blank. But grounding is learning how to stay steady under pressure.
With grounding, you can:
Keep your body calm when emotions rise
Stop reacting faster than your mind can process
Stay present instead of shutting down
Respond instead of react
Stay connected even during hard conversations
Grounding is the bridge between knowing what’s happening and being able to handle it.
Without it, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns, no matter how much clarity you have of the cycle. With it, you feel like yourself again… even in moments that used to overwhelm you.
Communication:
Communication is where everything comes together. This is what changes your relationships. This is what makes you a stronger partner. This is what rebuilds trust, connection, and intimacy.
You already know that just going to therapy or reading a book isn’t going to lead to the outcomes you want. You need to start making changes in your life. Changes like:
Saying what you actually mean
Expressing your needs without fear
Handling conflict without blowing up or checking out
Asking for support instead of shutting down
Building emotional safety with your partner
Repairing quickly when things go sideways
Therapy itself isn’t going to change your life. But we’ll discuss follow up actions and practices that you can start doing so that your life will be changed.
Who I Work With
Men in their 20s to 40s often fall into one or more of the patterns below. You might see yourself in one, or several, of them.
The Man Who Shuts Down When Things Get Tense
You stay calm, avoid conflict, and hold everything in because you don’t want to make things worse. But inside, you feel overwhelmed, unsure, and disconnected from your own emotions.
You might:
go quiet or freeze during conflict
try to avoid getting into a conflict altogether
feel distant from your partner but not know why
shut down in conflict and regret it later
avoid speaking up because you don’t want to be “too much”
You just never learned how to express yourself without fear or guilt. In therapy, we help you understand what you’re feeling, stay present when emotions get big, and speak honestly without shutting down.
The Man Who Carries Too Much Pressure
On paper you’re responsible and successful. Internally, you feel stressed, wired, and like you can’t catch up.
You might:
overthink everything
carry pressure quietly
snap at people you love
live with tension, irritability, and burnout
look “fine” while feeling exhausted inside
We’ll work on emotional regulation, stress cycles, and building clarity so you can lead your life without burning out.
The Man Who Gets Reactive Before He Means To
You’re not abusive. You’re not a “bad guy.”
But you’re overwhelmed and anger became the only emotion you know how to express.
You might:
go 0 → 100 faster than you want
get defensive before you realize it
say harsh things you regret
feel shame after every argument
watch your partner pull away because she feels unsafe
You don’t want to lose what matters. We’ll break down what’s underneath the anger, build grounding skills, track early cues, and help you communicate without blowing up or shutting down.
The Man Whose Mind Won’t Stop
You seem put together and calm, but your mind never stops. You’re constantly scanning for what could go wrong.
You might:
overthink every conversation and decision
spiral into future fears
stay tense even when nothing is wrong
need reassurance but feel ashamed asking
feel wired, restless, or unable to relax
Your body is in overdrive. We’ll work to build your emotional accuracy, increase your nervous system regulation, stopp the overthinking loop, and build confidence through clarity.
What Sessions Are Like
Working with me is straightforward, practical, and focused on helping you:
understand what you’re feeling in real time
stay grounded when emotions rise
communicate clearly without shutting down or reacting
break old patterns that are hurting your relationship
feel more confident, steady, and connected