Guilt and shame are emotions that many Asian-Americans may grapple with, often due to cultural expectations of perfection, respect for family, and the need to uphold certain standards. These feelings can arise from a sense of not meeting the high expectations set by oneself or others, leading to a deep sense of inadequacy or failure. Shame, in particular, may be felt if one’s actions are perceived as bringing dishonor to the family or community. These emotions can be overwhelming and may prevent individuals from seeking help, as they fear judgment or further disappointment. Therapy can offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore and process these feelings, helping individuals to develop self-compassion and break free from the cycle of guilt and shame.

In many Asian-American families, anger is often seen as an emotion that should be controlled or suppressed. Expressing anger might be perceived as a sign of disrespect or a lack of self-discipline, leading to the belief that it disrupts harmony within the family. This can result in environments where anger is internalized rather than addressed, and individuals may be conditioned to remain calm even in situations that provoke strong feelings.

On the other hand, many other Asian families also experience anger in the form of verbal or physical abuse, which can lead to powerlessness and trauma.

Consequently, unresolved anger can manifest in other ways, such as stress or resentment. While expressing anger within the family might not feel appropriate, finding healthy ways to process and manage it, such as through counseling or therapy, is a vital step toward emotional well-being.

Imposter syndrome is a common experience among many Asian-Americans, where despite their achievements, individuals may feel like they don’t truly belong or fear being exposed as a fraud. Cultural expectations of high achievement and the pressure to excel can intensify these feelings, leading to chronic self-doubt and a belief that success is due to luck rather than ability. This internal struggle can be compounded by the pressure to maintain a facade of competence and the reluctance to seek help.
Therapy can provide a supportive space to explore these feelings, challenge self-limiting beliefs, and develop a more authentic sense of self-worth, helping individuals to embrace their accomplishments with confidence.

In many Asian-American households, children often learn to suppress or conceal their emotions. Being "too emotional" might lead to the perception that you complain excessively and lack the ability to resolve issues independently. This can create family dynamics where silence is equated with strength, and emotions are seldom expressed. There may be an expectation to push through challenges regardless of how one feels. While it might not be possible to confide in a family member, seeking guidance and treatment from a mental health professional is not a burden on anyone.